“As John Eudes pointed out, the ‘ought mentality’ is closely tied up with the identity struggle. As long as I am constantly concerned about what I ‘ought’ to say, think, do, or feel, I am still the victim of my surroundings and am not liberated. I am compelled to act in certain ways to live up to my self-created image. But when I can accept my identity from God and allow Him to be the center of my life, I am liberated from compulsion and can move without restraint.” – Henri Nouwen in “Reaching Out” – one of the best books I’ve ever read…
Nic Spaull 
Awesome stuff Spaull Child! Sounds like a great book.