CS Lewis on the Church’s response to its gay members

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“Of all tyrannies, a tyranny exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It may be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron’s cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end for they do so with the approval of their own conscience. They may be more likely to go to Heaven yet at the same time likelier to make a Hell of earth. Their very kindness stings with intolerable insult. To be ‘cured’ against one’s will and cured of states which we may not regard as disease is to be put on a level of those who have not yet reached the age of reason or those who never will; to be classed with infants, imbeciles, and domestic animals.” From C.S. Lewis “God in the Dock”

When I read this quote from C.S. Lewis I could not help but think that this was an apt description of the relationship between the church and its gay members. I have often tried to understand how it is that patient, loving, and compassionate people – like those that I encountered in the church – can cause so much unintentional harm. I have never thought that there is some sort of conspiracy of horrible people aiming to exclude and marginalize gay people, yet this is the effect of conservative theology – intended or not. With a tilt of the head, and an earnest facial expression the pastor sighs, “It’s for your own good.” How much pain and suffering has been justified and morally rationalized under that treacherous slogan? How do pastors wash their hands of the blood of suicidal teenagers or the tears of their parents? The answer is that they do not claim responsibility even as they walk away culpable as fuck. This is the thing that makes me really angry. When confused children and youngsters seek help from their well-intentioned pastors and all they get is a subtle re-shaming cloaked as pastoral advice. “It’s perhaps best not to tell too many people about this” he says, trying to spare his charge some pain or public humiliation. Yet he does not think what this advice actually accomplishes. This suggestion to cover-up, to hide, to conceal only confirms to his charge that somehow he is to blame for this. This is his fault. So he walks away internalizing the guilt and shame with every step. The next session the pastor will re-assure his charge of God’s unconditional love and acceptance while he utters the words “There is nothing to be ashamed of”, as if these seven words could somehow counteract all the things he has heard or felt both inside and outside his church. As if it could negate all the things that have been insinuated and suggested by friends and family and pastors and preachers. No, it is not that easy to negate the secrecy and self-denial promoted by the evangelical church. You really have to be wilfully ignorant or just plain stupid not to see how the church’s current approach leads to self-loathing and shame for those who cannot match up to the unworkable and inhumane expectations placed on them.

William Easterly has written a fantastic paper about the ill effects of foreign aid on developing countries and refers to the situation as a “Cartel of good intentions.” A great description of what I am talking about here. “Cartels thrive when customers have little opportunity to complain or to find alternative suppliers.” And these facts together – Lewis’ tyranny exercised for the recipient’s benefit and Easterly’s lack of voice or exit means that we are stuck with a horrible equilibrium. More blood and more tears even as the church prays more fervently and tries to “help” to “care” to “pastor.” What they do not realize is that they are the solution to their own problems, indeed they are the problem.

Things will change, they always do. “The arc of history is long but it is bent towards justice.” We have more precedent than we have need for – slavery, women’s rights, civil rights, what more do you need? I believe two things are changing and they will be the straw that breaks this obstinate camel’s back: changing attitudes and beliefs of church members and increased compassion from pastors themselves. I have yet to see a pastor who has kicked his own child out of the church for being gay. Funny that, how one’s firmly held theological beliefs change so radically when the letter of the Law and the spirit of the Law collide, as they sometimes do.

Obviously most people do not lead churches or mosques or synagogues. They are not the bastion of intolerance and rejection that gay people regularly come up against. But that doesn’t mean there is nothing they can do. There is always something you can do. Speak. Act. Listen. Advocate. Vote. Empathize.

Washing one’s hands of the conflict between the powerful and the powerless means to side with the powerful, not to be neutral. ” ― Paulo Freire

5 responses to “CS Lewis on the Church’s response to its gay members

  1. pity that you introduced the word fuck so early in the narrative. It may well stop people who should read to the end from doing so.

  2. As a professing Christian, I believe in the Bible – the whole Bible. The Bible makes it clear in Romans 1:24 – 28 that homosexuality is the fruit of believing a lie – it is not from God. No Christian can argue around that. Many have tried, and many still do. But this then causes a contradiction. They are not agreement with the Bible. Even someone as profound and influential as C.S. Lewis stands to be corrected on this – not on my accord, but simply because of what is in the Bible. That being said, I agree 100% that more harm is being done by trying to adopt this double standard. I am disgraced by the fact that teens are being condemned and bullied because of the identity they profess. I am appalled by discreet attempts of pastors taking the “Maybe you shouldn’t tell anyone” approach. However, I cannot apologise for the Bible labeling homosexuality as a sin. No theologian can change that. It is there.

    Does that mean I’m homophobic? Not in the least! Does that mean I’m intolerant to gay people? Never! Jesus never looked down on anyone that did not believe what He had to say. In fact, he enjoyed the company of what the Jews labeled as “sinners.” Are churches to force it on people to turn there ways? Jesus didn’t. He gave stern conditions, but you won’t find anyone being forced to turn from his lifestyle if he didn’t want to. I know people in church who gave up that lifestyle because they chose to. They were never forced. Churches that enact this type of enforcement aren’t living the message that Christ intended. I also know someone who did not want to give up this lifestyle. We’re still friends. I know full well that this is an endless debate on where everything fits in and who is right and who is wrong. The bottom line, though, is this: The Bible says what it says. We cannot apologise or try to change what the Bible says is the origin of a lie (whether it be labelled a disease, a sin or something else). However, condescension and concealment is quite far from the Biblical response to homosexuality.

  3. Hi Nic Regarding CS Lewis on Church’s response to its gay members please refer to the following interesting link stating that Lewis was not a Christian http://www.jesus-is-savior.com/Wolves/cs_lewis.htm

    Regards

  4. “You really have to be wilfully ignorant or just plain stupid not to see how the church’s current approach leads to self-loathing and shame for those who cannot match up to the unworkable and inhumane expectations placed on them.” I think this simplifies the issue to a point where it becomes unhelpful. You are making sweeping generalizations here although there is anecdotal evidence to suggest that sometimes pastors may cause more harm than good. You also argue that your readers advocate for change but its not clear exactly what change they should make. For example, are you implying the readers should now adopt a liberal stance to theology and advocate same-sex pastors? Or can they still believe that homosexuality is wrong but gay people are welcome provided they don’t practice?

  5. We are new creations let people encounter Jesus and follow for better or worse love others period t’s the only response , saying they and living that has t’s persecutions – I wanted to write because I had felt he wrath of doctrine and some followers of Jesus won’t even tolerate a believer who has changed and is repentant and turning from sin slowly who Is connecting and trying to love and be tolerant with homosexuals . I just leaned love is the Intel response but love comes with a price a new kind of battle .. One thing I struggle with is it puts me in dangerous places I been far removed from the culture to an extent raising kids and embedded in a congregation and at some point our church had more divide a split progressive versus conservative basically insides with Jesus unconditional love (unmerciful servant , prodigal son , forgiving the woman caught in adultery, the unfairness and counterintuitive nature of grace ) anyway we ended up a bar to see our lesbian friend couple play a gig – many gay woman were around it had a spirit thing but this was my heart battling my fantasy deep things I had turned from was I ready to accept that ? I mean I was not attracted to all the woman I had all sisters so I love just talking to woman and holding long relational conversations. But with Jesus he knows my heart and sometimes that goes off an innocent track and so science justifies that to some degree , I would never hurt my wife but my heart has that temptation still I feel things atmospheres what not , any bar scene straight or gay has a vibe … But the thing few talk about is how woman were talking to my wife like surrounding her and then I questioned whether it was correct thing we been together for years and we are deeply in love suddenly I was jealous and worried what if these woman or one of them who really are nice and sweet but could care less about church or Jesus or may not have a proper perspective on family (this can be the heart of any human ) hit on her I mean we all were having fun and laughing and surrendering some woman talked to me but yet still some were like whatever like when you go to high school and only some very few become close friends … So for me it was surely out of a comfort zone but I don’t follow Jesus anymore to control things I get that , I had to trust at a new level – my friends who are embedded fundamental have said you avoid those places and I see the danger knowing what I know about Jesus and the HS now – but how can I learn to love and trust only in my Christian circles ? Through this and being honest with my wife and talking about the spirit of the age versus the spirit and consciousness of Jesus has set me free from any fear we have some gay friends who attend churches of many denominations and we don’t judge we just learn what we get from the Word and allow people that freedom to take it in and be transformed … Many of us scratch our heads I mean sexual sins seems obvious at some point I guess monogamy is a good compromise both sides have a great point I think the hurt however should not be always blamed on the pastors it’s the paradigm of this world co existent with good and evil .. My gay friends once I learned this I just cry seeing somehow if I was forgiven so are they God knows me and my old life perversions so how can I condemn others when I was accepted ? But I also see how deep conviction has its pains and resisting natural urges to lean on a spirit can set people apart , I see the point of those who take the Bible by its word – many need to reevaluate and translate it properly as well – but I see that it is clear others may not and it may be a debate but really I been rooted in a narrow gate and seed that took hold and that is a true root and cornerstone but as we grow in Christ by his spirit like a vine like a tree the tree we sort of become spouts from its roots and that’s life by the Spirit I’m connected to fundamentalism but now I can be more tender like the spirit and treat others different and yet hold to my personal sanctification … Jesus is for all

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